Now mainstream: Women are violent, too

Taylor Frankie and the new understanding that physical, sexual and emotional abusers are both men and women, with queer women the most violent

The third rail has been crossed: the masses are waking up to the fact that women are perpetrators of intimate partner violence, too.

In recent months my algorithm has been serving up lots of content about the fact that men and women are physically, sexually and emotionally violent in nearly equal measures, but it is this week’s headlines about reality TV star Taylor Frankie being charged with assault and domestic violence that tipped this understanding into the zeitgeist.

While mainstream feminists have long weaponised the public assumption that men are more violent than women, I maintain that it is a very feminist stance to accept that women are full people capable of the entire spectrum of human emotion and action — not docile, impotent victims requiring special protections.

An excerpt of 2024 book, The 50/50 Solution: The Surprisingly Simple Choice that Makes Moms, Dads, and Kids Happier and Healthier after a Split (SOURCEBOOKS) that sheds some light on this issue, especially how it …